Tuesday, April 23, 2019

Things I keep meaning to do



Some things have been on my to do list for a while or I keep meaning to add them to a to do list and they never make it there or I lack discipline

-Calling someone about the screens that have disappeared from two windows at the shore and updating the about the house/town list for the shore 

-Cleaning out my work bag

-Addressing the pores on my face

-Filing receipts electronically

-Digging through MFD’s car for sunglasses missing since November

-Scheduling a Vietnam Vets donation pickup

-Write blog posts on navigating local politics, money in politics, so you want to run for office, taking community action outside of the internet, host commentary on Show Us Your Books (co-writing with Jana), self discipline, and a zillion other things I have not bothered to write down

-Cleaning the inside of my car

-Making a fresh batch of shower spray

-Going to bed earlier

What do you keep meaning to do?



Monday, April 22, 2019

TWTW - the one with the Easter

Thursday I drove to the shore with Bruce & Bender. Mom and Rich were there and my Easter Basket was an awesome cooler bag with sugar cookies, a candle, and all of my preferred candies. MFD got his own candy. I hung out with them until 9, then worked until 11:30 and was up until 12:40.

Friday began with beach time with Bruce and Bender because Bruce got up at 5:40 with zero fucks given about the amount of sleep people need. It was a nice morning, with a big pink moon in the sky next to the big pink hotel. After that I made soaps for upstairs then got an early start to work. At lunch I painted my nails (Zoya Perrie) and went to the library before moving myself upstairs to work for the afternoon. 
Kate and Dan and kids and Swan arrived and after work we went to the Somers Point Brewery - it just opened last weekend. Close to the house and not bad. My mom loved the tour. We came back to relax and eat. MFD arrived around dinner with Gus and Mae and we hung out at night. It was early to bed for me due to lack of sleep the night before. 
Saturday I slept in until 9 which I obviously needed, and perfect on a rainy morning. I hit Asbury Avenue with the girls to peruse the stores. Notice MFD here with a full beard in the morning.
When we got back, MFD had mutton chops. Debbie arrived and everyone headed to Cape May Brewery while MFD and I took the dogs to two beaches. It was my first time on the beach this year with no shoes and it was awesome. Gus went in the ocean twice and Ben still doesn't have dog beach down. We're working on his barking.
I finished a book and started another, bid Swan goodbye, and when MFD next appeared he had weird sideburns and a mustache. We said goodbye to Kate and Dan and the kids after dinner and by 9 pm MFD was facial hair free because we all did sheet masks and laughed. 

Sunday 
Easter sunrise beach time with Bruce and Bender. 
Coffee with the blondes while Rich was out bike riding + reading and relaxing.
MFD's mom arrived and they hung at the house while we went up to the boardwalk. It was my first time walking it this year. Lots of people out and it was a beautiful day. Debbie and I had to get pics with the Easter Bunny because do you know us?
Porch time and grazing and Easter dinner. My mom brought all the food this weekend and it was awesome not to have to think about what to make or running out to get anything.
Mom and Rich left around 6 and Debbie soon after. MFD's mom hung out with us to watch Game of Thrones. I cleaned up a little, packed up, thought about things I could do and decided not to, wrote this blog, and read.

Weekly food prep: breakfast is greek yogurt with granola and mango until that's done, then breakfast burritos. Three lunches needed, they'll be freezer soups. Snacks are bell peppers and mango. Leftover ham and turkey for dinners with macaroni salad or sweet potatoes and veggies. 



Hope you had a nice Passover and/or Easter or simple spring weekend if neither is your bag. 

While every day is Earth Day, today is the designated one. Hope you are being as waste-free as you can be today!



Friday, April 19, 2019

Build a New Life Around Your New Home



Moving to a new city can be equal parts exciting and nerve-wracking. Whether you're moving for a new job or a fresh start or just a change of scenery, the city where you move to might offer you a better quality of life or the general cost of living could be a lot lower than where you are now. Where do you begin when you're looking to move?

Choose the Best Neighborhood for You
The area you move to is very important because duh you'll be living there. In my life, community, diversity, proximity to the library, public transportation, and walk-ability are important. Price, of course as well. Figure out what tops your list and what areas might suit you. When we were looking to buy at the shore walk-ability and price were our top considerations. In Philly proximity to public transportation was at the top of the list. 

Give It Time
Your first few days in your new home might feel very strange. Even when I've moved two blocks the first few months felt weird. Getting settled into a new place takes time, so sit with it and reassess your feelings in six-ish months. Hopefully by then you'll have found some favorite spots, made some friends, gotten more comfortable in a routine and geographically will know the city a lot more, so you should feel settled in.


Join Something
Grounding yourself in your new space is important in order to form attachments. Once you know a few people and start to create a social life, it will feel more like home. Book club, gym, clean up crew, volunteer organization, pool league, whatever...join something and meet some new people using groups that relate to your interests. 

Keep Up To Date With Local
It’s also advisable to keep up to date with local goings-on. You can see what is going on at your local clubs and organizations by checking their sites, such as arlingtonnewsnetwork.com or the zillion facebook neighborhood pages. Of course there's always the local newspaper or local news online. Keeping up to date with current affairs and local news will tie you to your new local area.

Figure Out The Transport System
As soon as you arrive in your new home, you should take a look at the public transport information. Most cities have sites dedicated to this, such as Portland’s travelportland.com  which is superior to the SEPTA site, trust me. This will help you get around when you are exploring, and you won’t be so dependent on your car. I am glad I can use public transportation to get to work in Philly but I love being able to walk or bike most places at the shore. Bottom line if I don't have to use the car, I won't.

Are you coming up on a move? What's important to you when you're looking for a new place to live?

Wishing you a wonderful Easter Weekend, Chag Sameach, or just a good and restful weekend if it's not a holiday for you. Happy happy birthday to Gail today also! 

Thursday, April 18, 2019

Thursday Thoughts - I wish I could change the ways of the world make it a nice place

1. My Monday night started this week off better than usual - my BFF Kim was down from Boston visiting her parents so I got to see her and Steve, her mom and dad, and the smartest, cutest, funniest goddaughter Libby on Monday night.

2. And I finally got a pedicure Tuesday so the springing forward world can breathe a sigh of relief. I don't even know what the color is, I'm just glad it's done.

3. Tuesday night was stellar too since my Dad dropped off chocolate peanut butter eggs Carol made for me. A Tuesday sans complaint? Who am I? 

4. Wednesday night was also amazing - MFD and I got to see Robin DiAngelo, author of White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism at the Friends Center in Philly and it was freeeee. 

5. The only personally blah-ish thing about this past week has been books. If you read every day, you can't read something that speaks to you all the time. I had two that I started and stopped and one that was just slow going. I'm on a third and it's okay. I'm pumped to pick up The Silent Patient at the shore on Friday though - I got that within three days of requesting it. I remain #119 on the list at the Philly library.

6. I still can't believe I watch Game of Thrones. I was all who cares forever. Now *I* care. I guess it was bound to happen because this has been our house for the past few years:

7. When I park my car on the other side of the street, the next morning I stand on my steps and think, dude, where’s my car. Even if I have reminded myself inside minutes before that I parked across the street last night. On those days, it only goes up from there. 

8. The fire of Notre Dame is absolutely sad and devastating. Not more sad and devastating than people living in pain and hunger. Similarly painful to pipelines being jammed through sacred lands or black churches in Louisiana being burned to the ground by a white supremacist. Sacred spaces are sacred spaces, even if they’re not ours. Yes, Notre Dame the structure has history and religious significance. So did the indigenous people of this country before white Europeans slaughtered them and stole their lands. So did families in Africa before their people were stolen, enslaved, and treated as less than animals by white land owners an ocean away. We can care about all of these things, and I sure as shit hope we can see the hypocrisy in only caring about one of them and not the others. My mind is totally blown though that billionaires have raised over $600 million in under 24 hours for a sanctuary/holy place/landmark owned by a tax-free organization that has more art/land/etc riches than pretty much any other organization. Wouldn’t it be nice to let them use their riches to pay to rebuild Notre Dame and use that raised money to feed the hungry, clothe the poor, and heal the sick? Pipe dreams but I think that's probably what Jesus would do. I’m not interested in telling people what to do with their money but it would be nice if they didn’t need the suggestion.

9. Reminder: Don't sweat it. You're not for everyone and that is more than fine.

10. Ecards.



What appears after the hyphen in Thursday Thoughts is a song lyric to whatever I'm listening to when I start to write the post. This week is Everything's Just Wonderful by Lily Allen

Tuesday, April 16, 2019

Things that make me low-key nervous



Not like vomit all over myself nervous...just passively, low-key nervous.

-Kids who can't swim running around a pool

-Releasing written communications

-Watching other people get embarrassed. Second hand embarrassment is real and I will often blurt something ridiculous or inappropriate to change the subject quickly

-Firing up a gas grill

-Driving over the Chesapeake Bay Bridge

-Stepping onto the down escalator 

-When I get trapped in a piece of clothing trying to get it off, especially in a dressing room

-Long hallways

-People saying, “Can we talk?” instead of just fucking talking

-Taking a public transport route I haven’t taken before

-Rickety carnie rides

-Ice breakers...no one is listening to anyone’s fun fact about themselves because they are too busy thinking of what they’re going to say when it’s their turn 


What makes you low-key nervous?

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