Showing posts with label living my best life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label living my best life. Show all posts

Monday, October 30, 2017

TWTW - splitting the last one in October

Friday
-Clean shirt, new shoes and I don't know where I am going to-oo (name that tune)
-Actual cleaning of our shore apartment & putting the down comforter on the bed. I forgot how application of the duvet is like wrestling a gator. Since there are no photos of that scintillating night, please enjoy this photo MFD snapped of Bruce asleep in the toy basket on Friday afternoon.

Saturday - a true example of a living my best life day
Sunrise - not too far gone into fall that I couldn't have my feet in the water for 40 minutes. 
Coffee (solo, they're both mine LOL) - Library - Storm door research at Shoemaker Lumber
Smudge stick from Blue Lotus, Soap from LEH Soap Co., bread & pumpkin roll from Bennie’s Bread with some tomato pie for lunch...are errands done on a bike as loathsome as regular errands? No, they are not.
Over five miles on my bike including a visit to the beach of my childhood, North Street, where the dredging is beginning
Beach reading
A spectacular sun roof open music blaring no traffic ride home + a quick stop in Marshalls where I got this bed the dogs have been warring over ever since, even though we have another bed and couches. That's always the way. 
Stuffed cabbage rolls a la MFD + dog time + episode one of Stranger Things season 2 + three loads of laundry

Sunday
Started off with Bruce peeing on me at 6:30 am as I was stepping over the threshold from the door to the yard...that 10 second fumble with my flip flop in the dark really cost me. I had chicken stock and laundry going by 7. 
Weekly food prep: breakfast is scrambled eggs topped with broccoli and ham; lunch is PB&J on Dave's Killer Bread; dinners are chicken and rice soup using the homemade stock and egg salad because Amazon accidentally sent me two dozen organic hard boiled eggs. I also made homemade cream of mushroom soup to freeze for use in future recipes so I don't have to avoid things calling for canned cream of soup (I quadrupled that recipe so I ended up freezing what amounts to four cans) and breakfast burritos to freeze. I froze half of the chicken and rice soup plus six cups of leftover chicken stock too. It was a good freezer prep week for me - it makes me feel better to know I have things in the freezer even though it's extra work on the day I do it and I feel like I spend hours washing pots and pans. 
We were supposed to go to my Dad & Carol's for dinner for my Dad's birthday, but Carol got sick so they had to cancel. MFD and I went to Stephen & Aubrey's to spend some time with the hilarious Lola Jean and enjoy Pop's Italian dinner and cannoli cake - the cake in the dark because the power went out. We sent him a video of Lola's favorite song, happy birthday.


Last Monday in October. Asphinctersays what?


Wednesday, October 25, 2017

Two if by sea

Yesterday was two years of living the dream. It's weird, right, to commemorate the day you bought a house? It's more than that to me though. It was a life changer on that day two years ago, and it still is now. I remember throwing the dogs into the car and roaring down there immediately, crying most of the way, and never looking back.

I meant to log on and post a few photos to commemorate the occasion. Then I thought well I can just do a quick month thing. Naturally, it got long and out of hand. By the end I was like derr it's not a quick thing. So much of my life is lived at the shore. During the week our house at home feels like a way station where we do laundry and wait to go back to the shore. And by we I mean I because MFD works most weekends and now has mummery so he's not always getting a day in down there.

We didn't spend a lot of time down there after mid-October last fall because we were in Ireland and Scotland at the end of October/beginning of November, spent Thanksgiving at Lori's, and then MFD was out at Standing Rock in December. Then I had a Saturday work event, then holiday parties, you know the drill. We closed the house up earlier than normal, but I did see one last sunrise down there.
Popping in on a 74 degree day in February for a house check and beach run.
I planned to spend my 40th there and it fucking snowed, delaying the house opening more than a week. I was in a big snit. We didn't open it until March 24, and that was molasses like because we had the Covenant House sleepout the night before. Regardless, the dogs were happy to be back at the beach and so were we.
April was an ass kicking month. We replaced the railings on on apartment porch, removed old carpet there and painted the concrete, painted the wood on that porch and the upper porch, painted the two bedrooms on the third floor, got rid of a bunch of old furniture and fashioned new tables and lamps for one of the rooms up there. Lola did an egg hunt that was crowded as fuck, we spent Easter there, and a very hot April weekend with the girls. I had my first Kohr Bros of the season and got an Ocean City library card, which made my life.
May started out shitty with a Nor'Easter. And painting. Always painting. Staircases, trim, touch up paint. Two new air conditioning units, new carpet on the top floor, new contact paper on the wall up there, and the discovery that Luigi's was under new ownership and would become one of our favorite restaurants. Memorial Day was cold with the exception of Sunday. Like, wearing knit hats on Monday night cold.
June was my brother's birthday and doing the rides with Lola, a visit from Mom & Rich and trip to the Deauville, my 40th weekend with my girls, an ill-fated trip to Fortescue and the attack of the green flies from hell, late Saturday nights fishing in Corson's until the light died, late lingering Sundays spent down in the North End, and settling into summer weekend routines with the start of the weekly rental season.
July 4th fell on a Tuesday and that week was the most nuts I have ever seen the shore even though the weekend before it was so cold we were all bundled up on the boardwalk. On the actual 4th I sequestered myself in our apartment until it was time to go home. We were away for two weekends and Michelle held down the fort, then the last weekend was a major monsoon event so I sent MFD down to do turnover and stayed home.
August was new lamps, new homemade soap with soap labels, new cushions for the porch chairs upstairs, new beach cart, a college reunion, Marla sighting, cousin time, fireworks, Friday afternoons off, a surf show on the boards, and actual surfing for MFD.
Sweet, sweet September. The end of the weekly rental season. The time to reeeee-lax. And this year, the time to say goodbye to sweet Geege. It was also the Classic Car Show and the Corvette Show, new bedding, new lamps, new carpet on the steps, MFD's 40th over Labor Day, an extra long weekend at the end of September that felt like summer, a trip to Cape May, riding on the new roller coaster, and the meeting of Bruce Springsteen.
And here we are in what is technically now our third October. We did the Block Party and Laura and Chris came for a quick visit. Bruce Springsteen loves the beach. I am pretty set on an every other weekend at the shore schedule from now until whenever we need to close it for the season, which is only when the pipes are in danger of freezing. Otherwise we layer up and use ceramic heaters.
As I looked over these pictures on a little walk down memory lane for the past shore year, I alternately thought I can't believe this is my life/this is my fucking life and I love it.

It still feels like a dream a lot of the time. The battles with VRBO do not, however. Our listing is still up there but I'm hoping to switch full time to Shore Summer Rentals in the future. We have three weeks rented for next year, which is awesome.

And I have a library card. And favorite restaurants. And we know shop keepers. We are building our community there and I love it.

People remark that it seems stressful at times. And it is, sure, specifically the hours between 10 am and 3 pm every Saturday in the summer. Even that is mostly self-inflicted, because it's about me wanting things to be perfect for people checking in even though I know perfection is an unattainable illusion. But the minuscule amount of stress is worth it a million times over.

See one year anniversary post here.

Tuesday, October 17, 2017

What living my best life looks like

As I get older, the concept of living my best life is one I think about a lot. That can mean different things depending on the day but mostly it's things I do or ways of being that are in the best interest of my mental health and enable me to look in the mirror without disappointment at the end of the day.

Living my best life is doing what actually makes me happy, not what should make me happy

Living my best life is pursuing happiness and not getting caught up in bullshit

Living my best life is being a helper

Living my best life is not finishing books I don't want to finish

Living my best life is spending as much of my time as possible at the shore and continuing to make my life bigger there

Living my best life is eating the cupcake

Living my best life is not waiting for tomorrow or next week or next year or the right time because sometimes there is no right time

Living my best life is being open to things on my path

Living my best life is knowing how crucial my tribe is to who I am 

Living my best life is being okay with people not liking me because I am not for everyone

Living my best life is wearing lounge attire a large percentage of the time

Living my best life is encouraging and empowering others

Living my best life is buying the sunglasses

Living my best life is saying no to something in order to say yes to myself

Living my best life is saying screw the to do list, I'm going on a bike ride 

Living my best life is being invested in other people 

Living my best life is not defining myself by my appearance because I will look a lot of different ways in this life so I can't tie my identity or worth to that 

Living my best life is playing to my strengths while recognizing the limits of my weaknesses

Living my best life is appreciating everylittlething

Living my best life is stretching as far between hair washes as I can

Living my best life is not being a people pleaser or aspiring to be described as nice

Living my best life is sleeping at least seven hours a night 

Living my best life is alone at dawn feeling peace settle down into my bones while watching the sunrise 

Living my best life is choosing every day whether I'm going to be a good person or a shitty person, knowing one feels much better than the other,  not always making the right choice, and trying again the next day

Living my best life is letting go of things and people that interfere with my energy. Nothing occupies space here unless I allow it and I don't owe space to anyone regardless of who they are

Living my best life is growing and changing a little bit every day 

Living my best life is living as me according to my own definition, not anyone else's, and allowing myself to be who I am, warts and all

What are some of the ways you live your best life?


Monday, October 16, 2017

TWTW - the one with the chill

Friday night was a slow mover, I packed up and sailed down the shore for a 9:30 arrival. Saturday I read, painted my nails (OPI Black Dress Not Optional), made some daily shower spray, took myself out for coffee, road my bike all over town, and took the dogs to the beach. Gus had a sidewalk shitting incident that I cleaned up with leaves and my hands basically and during the cleanup a man thought it would be a good time to come close with his dog and make conversation while Gus and Mae went nuts and the puppy cried. Laura and Chris arrived late afternoon and we had lunch at Jon & Patty's, walked the boards with Bruce Springsteen, sat on the beach, and had dinner at Luigi's. My pizza is aglow in the neon window lights but it was freaking good - all manner of Italian meats on a pizza with sharp provolone and broccoli rabe. 
Sunday morning we hit the Sunrise Cafe for breakfast before they were off. It was so good to have facetime with them even for a short time just bumming around unshowered. They wouldn't even let me pay for a meal. When they left I cleaned our apartment up a little and rode my bike to the library before packing it in for home. It soothes me to be in a relatively empty quiet shore town off-season even though the weather both days was different than the forecast. Hashtag should've been a weather person.  


I was home at 2 with the laundry and food prep and dishwasher going shortly after. Weekly food prep: breakfast is crockpot breakfast casserole from Steph only I made it in the oven and cut the potatoes; lunch is spinach salad with walnuts, cranberries, feta cheese, and red onion with an olive oil and balsamic sauce and a squirt of lemon (made nightly because I hate when shit sits); dinners are maple dijon chicken thighs over rice with steamed broccoli (planned on making Sunday but someone who shall remain nameless did not defrost the chicken thighs as requested) and baked chicken breasts served with butternut squash. Snacks are honey crisp apples and cherry and vanilla noosa yogurt. I'm also making healthy three ingredient flourless pumpkin brownies with this frosting that I saw Amy share on IG. 
Sunday night we went to the Peace Center Gala. A few months ago I was like hell yes but as Sunday early evening rolled around I was like whyyyyyyy. I'm sure some of you feel me on that. MFD was a sponsor though and the Peace Center is a freaking phenomenal organization that does such crucial work in the Bucks County community. It was a wonderful event. If you're not familiar with the Peace Center, I urge you to check them out. They put on workshops frequently. Unfortunately Bucks has recently had a spike in hateful acts like the N word on school signs and carved into cars and rampant anti-semitism. The Peace Center responds to these events and helps support and heal the community. They also do a lot of work in schools with bullying prevention.



How was yours?

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