tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post5982071543164915986..comments2024-03-22T04:01:14.613-04:00Comments on Life According to Steph: 90/10SMD @ lifeaccordingtostephhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09884611147965544589noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-89987523854220001242016-02-26T10:33:54.174-05:002016-02-26T10:33:54.174-05:00100% agreement. How you react to what's happen...100% agreement. How you react to what's happening in your life is a BIG factor is how things turn out and what else comes your way. React negatively and that's what you're going to continue to get. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-45812295692224342612016-02-25T12:24:08.564-05:002016-02-25T12:24:08.564-05:00I completely agree. I like to know I am not the on...I completely agree. I like to know I am not the only one struggling through something as there is always knowledge to be gained from someone else's path through it. I may not take the same one but I know I will try to push and persevere through it too. Kerry @ Till Then Smile Oftenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15665402939137040730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-1014644068687482012016-02-20T12:02:09.581-05:002016-02-20T12:02:09.581-05:00I love this post! I've been toying with the i...I love this post! I've been toying with the idea of writing a more personal post along these lines, but I haven't quite worked up the courage to do so yet. I feel like I do share a lot of personal things, but sometimes I have to take a minute to step back and determine just how much I'm willing to share on a public space.<br /><br />That being said, sharing personal struggles and triumphs is one of the best things about the blogging community. It's great to see that you're not alone in your struggles (even though it may feel that way sometimes). It's also great to see someone who overcame a major obstacle and hear what worked for them. Additionally, it can be incredibly cathartic to share some of your own issues with others. Every time I write about something like that I think, "I really hope this reaches at least one person who really needs to know they're not alone."Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14757174923718324262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-75118031372732244242016-02-18T19:22:06.237-05:002016-02-18T19:22:06.237-05:00So much truth in all of this. "People unders...So much truth in all of this. "People understand more than we want them to..." So, so, so true. I need to remember that. sara [at] journey of doinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09328180529729262449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-19925302445404129692016-02-18T14:34:06.565-05:002016-02-18T14:34:06.565-05:00Its posts like these that make me love your blog s...Its posts like these that make me love your blog so much. Do you mind if I link this post on my blog? I love this. Definitely another "Best of" postOld Lady Gladyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14226149743524457102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-61428256903115206372016-02-18T08:07:04.263-05:002016-02-18T08:07:04.263-05:00The 90/10 rule I quoted oh I think 3 times this we...The 90/10 rule I quoted oh I think 3 times this week & wrote in my journal January 14th. You are right no one escapes this world only seeing rainbows. Fabulous post. llf1020https://www.blogger.com/profile/16196234993611944142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-39048909825290756962016-02-17T18:52:21.612-05:002016-02-17T18:52:21.612-05:00"I think someone always has it worse than me ..."I think someone always has it worse than me and someone probably has it better, too." This is exactly how I feel, too. I like your 90/10 rule... I've never believed that life is ALL about how we react/handle situations BUT the way you're putting it still leaves room for people to be accountable to as much of a degree as they should be.Amanda - Voyage of the MeeMeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08820601784610439713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-26083640174166368572016-02-17T17:12:16.828-05:002016-02-17T17:12:16.828-05:00Thank you for this gentle reminder, I needed it. X...Thank you for this gentle reminder, I needed it. XoThe Flynniganshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05877002799914008086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-53220800316927316622016-02-17T16:41:05.616-05:002016-02-17T16:41:05.616-05:00This reminded me of a quote I saw recently (and I&...This reminded me of a quote I saw recently (and I"m not really a huge quote person, but I saved this one in my phone cause I liked it): "You either get bitter or you get better. It’s that simple. You either take what has been dealt to you and allow it to make you a better person, or you allow it to tear you down. The choice does not belong to fate, it belongs to you." Ali Arnonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15481407457549302387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-57672362526974152442016-02-17T16:10:34.592-05:002016-02-17T16:10:34.592-05:00I actually take comfort when others share their st...I actually take comfort when others share their stories when we have been through something similar. I can't stand playing or even being the victim. Though sometimes it is easier to shut out everything to attempt to get over something. Kimmihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00410492611956836803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-63295640001737673522016-02-17T16:05:23.137-05:002016-02-17T16:05:23.137-05:00Well said. I agree with you and that's a great...Well said. I agree with you and that's a great way to approach life. We ultimately determine our future. Emily @ Martinis | Bikinishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13771245700613396017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-46647660806607349202016-02-17T16:04:32.184-05:002016-02-17T16:04:32.184-05:00I guess I've never thought of your 90/10 rules...I guess I've never thought of your 90/10 rules as it relates to attitude, but I think's that's a great way to look at it. Perhaps my view is rather Polly Anna-ish, but I just always assume that someone has it worse than me . . . not that I haven't had my struggles. I feel like I have bad days here and there, but overall I'm blessed beyond measure and never take it for granted. <br /><br />BTW - I just noted the "I SAID GOOD DAY" and that a. seems like it fits here some how and b. made me giggle because I LOVE Willy Wonka! :-)Amy @ Getz Girl on Firehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00056695150503978234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-78364395552549580882016-02-17T15:58:55.256-05:002016-02-17T15:58:55.256-05:00I love this rule. I think sometimes we judge so qu...I love this rule. I think sometimes we judge so quickly and it's so wrong, we just have no idea. But we also have to take into consideration that we can either let something affect us, or not. great rule!Helene in Betweenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03734694540206484285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-28226623909833957832016-02-17T13:48:45.281-05:002016-02-17T13:48:45.281-05:00I think I live my life by the 90/10 rule too, but ...I think I live my life by the 90/10 rule too, but I haven't suffered much. I've been heartbroken, I've had a few bouts of the blues, and there have been losses in my life, but nothing catastrophic has ever happened to me or anyone in my immediate family (knock on wood). I'm lucky and sheltered that way. I have LOTS of extended family members with mental illness and addiction. And then there are people out there that endure emotional and physical abuse. In all of those cases I can't think they just need an attitude adjustment. However, to all my friend complaining about the small stuff...SHUT UP AND DEAL. I think those people need more perspective.Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17987539776935412156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-75555415714698647152016-02-17T13:39:44.768-05:002016-02-17T13:39:44.768-05:00Yep, people gotta stop complaining about their cir...Yep, people gotta stop complaining about their circumstances and get out there and make things happen for themselves. You can't control what you can't control.lisacnghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08404184287815243972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-44308243866507627492016-02-17T13:39:24.558-05:002016-02-17T13:39:24.558-05:00I couldn't agree with you more! Yes some peopl...I couldn't agree with you more! Yes some people are dealt a better hand than others, but there are so many success stories of people who powered through the garbage thrown their way. I love the idea of living 90/10 :)Kate at Green Fashionistahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11104665064880942943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-53517753110039921602016-02-17T12:47:04.880-05:002016-02-17T12:47:04.880-05:00I have that "10% of life is what happens to y...I have that "10% of life is what happens to you, 90% is how you react to it" quote hanging in my therapy room at work. A trusted friend and confidante gave it to me a few years when I and most of the faculty were experiencing a very rough, transitional year. I've kept it up as a visual reminder that I may not be able to control what happens in my life, but by golly - I can usually control how I react to it. Having that mindset has made all the difference in my work life and even though my workplace isn't sunshine and rainbows, it's manageable. I no longer allow the drama or toxicity to infect me. <br /><br />After reading several others' comments, I know that I am quite fortunate in that I do not suffer from depression. Yes, I suffer from some mild season affect/winter funk stuff, but not clinical depression. I will not assume to know how this impacts individuals and how difficult it can make life. Having said that, I'll share a quote used (not penned) by a former guidance counselor that I had the privilege of working with for many years: "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle."Ericka @ A Quiet Girl's Musings...https://www.blogger.com/profile/11041608167418967580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-81067215239033557492016-02-17T12:29:20.067-05:002016-02-17T12:29:20.067-05:00Well said. I'm a big believer in this theory b...Well said. I'm a big believer in this theory but also for the allowance of your true, wishy-washy emotions first. For instance, during a break-up, allow yourself x amount of time (few days, a week?) to wallow, to cry, to blubber, to feel like a victim, to feel like you did everything right. But put an end cap on that. And then start looking at it in its truth. I find that when we give ourselves a second to respond naturally (even if it's just an afternoon), it gives perspective once you've walked through it. And in that time, it's easier to do the 90/10 rule like you are saying. Thanks for the food for thought!Caitlin @ Candyfloss & Persiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10643817536737845811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-86240240128900610842016-02-17T11:59:51.657-05:002016-02-17T11:59:51.657-05:00one of my favourite quotes is something like you s...one of my favourite quotes is something like you should never compare yourself to others, someone will always be worse and someone will always be better, and you will end up vain or bitter. or something like that. i apply it to everything i possibly can. like when i get crabby or complain, i know other people have it worse than me or have 'suffered' though what i have. i definitely think life is 90% how we react to it, and knowing that, or thinking i have some control or whatever, instantly makes me feel better.. does that make sense? anyway.Kristen @ See You In A Porridgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09592108031437491276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-30717349118216641932016-02-17T10:47:35.703-05:002016-02-17T10:47:35.703-05:00Yep - preach it. I was sitting here convicted this...Yep - preach it. I was sitting here convicted this morning about things i've been whining about & then heard the news of a friend who just recently found out she has cancer, & her dad died last night. & she's still putting out goodness in the world. ... perspective on life is a must.Rebecca Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03965781380511208862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-76599171263400359652016-02-17T10:45:24.137-05:002016-02-17T10:45:24.137-05:00Thanks for sharing this. Having the right attitude...Thanks for sharing this. Having the right attitude about things is so important.Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00210065091965251377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-26097281656215694392016-02-17T10:40:36.750-05:002016-02-17T10:40:36.750-05:00Being in a very dark place right now, I'm havi...Being in a very dark place right now, I'm having trouble coherently responding. Because while I know that it's my choice how I respond, and I hate being either a victim or a martyr, when I'm in this place, it's hard to make the good choices to get out of it. <br /><br />I do, however, fully believe that I'm the sum of my circumstances and choices, not one of them specifically. That's what keeps me going. That, and realizing that the cloud will lift at some point and I'll go back to feeling normal. <br /><br />Having depression makes me a little more sensitive to what others are going through. Not that they have it better or worse or whatever; just that everyone has bad times no matter what face they might show publicly. Jana @ Jana Sayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15501814243709445827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-22606446115351553662016-02-17T10:15:59.925-05:002016-02-17T10:15:59.925-05:00Attitude is everything. It can either make you or ...Attitude is everything. It can either make you or break you. Kenya https://www.blogger.com/profile/18042330973192781613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-21073407102117836052016-02-17T09:36:08.866-05:002016-02-17T09:36:08.866-05:00I 100% agree with your philosophy, attitude is so ...I 100% agree with your philosophy, attitude is so important. We all struggle and have things we deal with, we can either be debbie downer all the time or try to spin the smaller things into silver linings. P!nkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10193703533246466440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-80612650324879107762016-02-17T09:25:18.299-05:002016-02-17T09:25:18.299-05:00Wow, Steph this is so true and I definitely agree ...Wow, Steph this is so true and I definitely agree with the 90/10 rule. This post really gets me thinking on the subject of you never really know what other people are dealing with, so be kind to others. It's important to learn not to pass judgement when you interact with someone that may not be super chipper, because they may be having a really rough day at home. Sometimes a simple smile or thank-you goes a long way. Thanks for sharing this today.Cara (Kindly Unspoken)https://www.blogger.com/profile/05646839632185816703noreply@blogger.com