tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post175544254223670548..comments2024-03-22T04:01:14.613-04:00Comments on Life According to Steph: The Cult of PositivitySMD @ lifeaccordingtostephhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09884611147965544589noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-5952163430721811522014-07-25T21:33:23.671-04:002014-07-25T21:33:23.671-04:00Amen. I acknowledge the bad feelings, because mask...Amen. I acknowledge the bad feelings, because masking them with a smile doesn't solve shit. I now take the problems head on, solve them, and move on. I will feel the negative, but never dwell on it. Positivity is something I always strive for because it keeps me in a good, sound mind, but I will never live in denial. I really love your blog Steph. You're so real, down to earth, and relatable. Liz @ Fitness Blondiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02539424029842243020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-26023128382646160282014-07-25T16:27:05.406-04:002014-07-25T16:27:05.406-04:00Thanks! Everyone's replies made me think too.Thanks! Everyone's replies made me think too. SMD @ lifeaccordingtostephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09884611147965544589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-3222616718118440152014-07-25T12:21:53.895-04:002014-07-25T12:21:53.895-04:00Found you through Kerry @ Till then smile often......Found you through Kerry @ Till then smile often...<br /><br />I love this post!<br /><br />Very real. Very thought provoking.<br /><br />Thank you.Kateri Von Stealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05168871921423248029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-52820962563194644592014-07-24T20:17:03.373-04:002014-07-24T20:17:03.373-04:00I completely agree. I TRY to find the positive in ...I completely agree. I TRY to find the positive in bad situations because I believe you CHOOSE to be happy or not, but there has to be some slack. Some days you're just in a funk and nothing goes right, or you get terrible news, have a setback somehow, and in order to stay positive, sometimes you just need to experience some sadness. I have a friend who is always so happy and upbeat and never ever shows anything but that, and I'm like, 'girl, it's ok to be real now and then. Not everything is sunshine and rainbows. Stop it.'Amanda Momentshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17973724548964906810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-73736289500873562262014-07-24T19:06:05.130-04:002014-07-24T19:06:05.130-04:00"Good results can come from bad situations an..."Good results can come from bad situations and negative emotions." AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAMEN! I always say: "You can't let a hard situation turn you into a hard person."Amanda - Voyage of the MeeMeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08820601784610439713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-53982313011167936542014-07-24T14:26:48.171-04:002014-07-24T14:26:48.171-04:00I love this. Keeping' it real! I like to think...I love this. Keeping' it real! I like to think I'm a generally positive and happy person, but I don't really sugar coat ether. And I will not waste my time with downers. I just won't hang out with you if you constantly bring me down.Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17987539776935412156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-59413342123393006812014-07-24T08:59:44.561-04:002014-07-24T08:59:44.561-04:00Spot on - I had this experience with an old manage...Spot on - I had this experience with an old manager of mine - NEVER saw anything negative.. All was peachy in the world. Even still a lot of others are big proponents of the positive state of mind where nothing is ever wrong and it drives me crazy! Yes you can be too negative but you can also drive others crazy by never acknowledging that what just happened really sucked, just acknowledge it and say "you know what it does suck but it won't affect me" - Emotions are there for a reason: to be experienced. Have a great one Stephanie! -IvaAwesomelyOZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13849681096434789896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-28054335083982334402014-07-24T06:55:04.772-04:002014-07-24T06:55:04.772-04:00I believe life is about feeling all emotions. If I...I believe life is about feeling all emotions. If I am angry I allow myself to be angry. Same for every emotion. I try to not wallow in anger or sadness for too long but I am sure as hell going to feel the rage for a time and sadness for time. It to me is living.llf1020https://www.blogger.com/profile/16196234993611944142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-41941392909663277682014-07-23T18:47:48.102-04:002014-07-23T18:47:48.102-04:00What an awesome post, I couldn't agree more. ...What an awesome post, I couldn't agree more. While I can't stand people who are constantly a downer, I also can't stand people who are constantly way too positive. It isn't healthy to be so far on one side or the other. You can't have a rainbow without a little rain ;DKenzie Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17331352267901661256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-3146022941091281752014-07-23T18:21:41.019-04:002014-07-23T18:21:41.019-04:00Ya know what. Thank you for this post. I always fi...Ya know what. Thank you for this post. I always find myself...afraid...to be upset or negative once in while because I don't want people to say "OMG You are always angry! Like get over it already!" It really is draining to constantly have to push back the rage emotion so you can be positive all the time. Life is not always rainbows and unicorns...sometimes it's unicorn shit...and that's okay too. Thanks for reminding me.Verahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08741033964363343115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-13567122382034939892014-07-23T16:24:21.802-04:002014-07-23T16:24:21.802-04:00I feel like I became my strongest from my most neg...I feel like I became my strongest from my most negative moments. I learned and grew from them. You have to find a balance.Brittney, Breaking Freehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15611516229401296548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-60011180709210084012014-07-23T15:30:19.636-04:002014-07-23T15:30:19.636-04:00I love this! I've never been a positive person...I love this! I've never been a positive person, I consider myself a realist which to a positive person looks exactly like a cynic.<br /><br />I do have a problem letting bad/negative moods suck me in, I need to get better at moving past the negative but I'll never be Susie Sunshine.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-36786675582859695852014-07-23T14:54:44.320-04:002014-07-23T14:54:44.320-04:00Great perspective!Great perspective!Nats ~Coral Tinted Perceptionshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04176952796396931623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-65481123452692434502014-07-23T13:59:37.326-04:002014-07-23T13:59:37.326-04:00I'm going to send this to my husband so he can...I'm going to send this to my husband so he can work on making negativity his bitch. I'll let you know how that goes. Steph Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08995001313606121231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-51902168489459478132014-07-23T13:43:41.266-04:002014-07-23T13:43:41.266-04:00I love this, especially the "create a life&qu...I love this, especially the "create a life" part. I struggle with this. I am pretty open with my trials and have had a lot, people tend to tell me what I should be doing. I am learning how to balance the highs and lows to create what feels good to me on the inside no matter what it looks like to anyone else. Anyone that is positive all the time is full of shit lol... I see a lot of Instagram fitness accounts like that and they drive me crazy. I mean I get it in theory but we are not robots!!!Amy @The Crazy Wise Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09874810213852628465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-70902410983950971512014-07-23T13:39:24.785-04:002014-07-23T13:39:24.785-04:00My God, I love you! And I love all the thought pro...My God, I love you! And I love all the thought provoking comments you've received with this post, and not just "Oh I totally agree, and on Wednesdays we wear pink!"<br /><br />OK, so I do agree with this. And my bra is pink. Go figure. But, like you said, there has to be this midpoint, this balance, and if the scales tip most the time to one side, you're gonna end up losing your damn mind. MarlaJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08137272982165965923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-84905410139683390962014-07-23T13:27:07.617-04:002014-07-23T13:27:07.617-04:00I agree with this 100%. I would consider myself an...I agree with this 100%. I would consider myself an optimist for the most part, and definitely try to find the silver lining in negative situations, but sometimes I just gotta ride out the funk. I realize that and am okay with it. I have a friend who recently moved to Cali and she's all "everything is the BEST EVER!" every time I talk to her; it's so annoying and unrealistic. I feel the same about a coworker of mine who complains about every little thing all the time- take the good with the bad! Balance!lil desiquahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12702603642296991017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-63880803847984455572014-07-23T12:50:46.274-04:002014-07-23T12:50:46.274-04:00I completely agree! I cannot stand people who onl...I completely agree! I cannot stand people who only ever complain but I want to smack some reality into people who are ALWAYS happy & try to force their sunshine onto everyone else all the time. If I'm having a bad day let me have a bad day & on the flip side don't try to drag me down just because you're miserable.Briannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15343989978472064388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-63418233891392683792014-07-23T12:04:15.030-04:002014-07-23T12:04:15.030-04:00I always call myself a realist. I just cannot act ...I always call myself a realist. I just cannot act like everything is all rainbow and sunshine all the time...both extremes really turn me off people. I think there is a line between being positive and being delusional/fake. I had a friend in HS who I simply could not be friends with her anymore because she always acted like everything was perfect when it was not. She dated this guy that we all knew and she pretended he was a completely different person when they started dating. It was so sad to watch. Food, Booze, & Baggagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02975014929164134881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-47130613544392355702014-07-23T11:37:50.537-04:002014-07-23T11:37:50.537-04:00Of course you know that I'm totally down with ...Of course you know that I'm totally down with this. While I don't like being a whinER, if I'm pissed about something, it's valid. I don't want to hear someone telling me to be positive and grateful and all that. Just let me have my moment and then I'll move on. Balance, balance, balance!Gwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10673986016485754373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-11902940769574015992014-07-23T11:03:16.524-04:002014-07-23T11:03:16.524-04:00"Channel negativity and make it my bitch.&quo..."Channel negativity and make it my bitch." I like it. I'm definitely guilty of sometimes being in a true negative everything sucks funk. Rarely am I 100% rainbows and butterflies. I totally agree though- even I don't like myself when I'm in the everything's bad mood. And I don't like the everything's good all the time bs either. Kate @ Another Clean Slatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08646464393586461119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-6736272551698029142014-07-23T10:59:49.483-04:002014-07-23T10:59:49.483-04:00This. This. This. Ive always been a positive perso...This. This. This. Ive always been a positive person and I have always hated to be around negativity ...but particularly this year it drives me batty when people are constantly down and upset over the littlest shit. Just yesterday one of my friends was complaining to me all day about some trivial matter. By the end of the day I had enough and had to tell her ... listen please stop complaining, if you had half of the shit I had to deal with this year Id understand but you have a chance to make your shit better so stop whining and do something about it! <br /><br />I love this post and sorry for the rant ha!Kay R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17616798594879683219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-14010445478198111042014-07-23T10:54:42.021-04:002014-07-23T10:54:42.021-04:00I love your perspective on all of this. I try to b...I love your perspective on all of this. I try to be positive about most things, because positivity equals happiness. I try to let go of most things that irritate me or make me sad, because really, who has time to let things bother them? But, I certainly have my down days. I just try not to stay down about something or more than just a little while because no one wants to be around that. I don't want to be around myself like that! I like to think about the worst case scenarios in most situations to remind myself it is there so I am not setting myself up for a surprise, but also try to think the good is going to happen from it. Nadinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06920454010509077779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-24707391316441967052014-07-23T10:48:54.205-04:002014-07-23T10:48:54.205-04:00I agree. I consider myself a realist. I don't ...I agree. I consider myself a realist. I don't think it's healthy to go too far in either direction. You can't be so negative that you're depressed, and you can't be so optimistic that you're blind to real world consequences. Balance is definitely the right word.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11422365462021152556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-37589711632054771472014-07-23T10:38:31.376-04:002014-07-23T10:38:31.376-04:00I don't think it's realistic to not get ma...I don't think it's realistic to not get mad or pissed off. According to the Mental Health Foundation, anger is a natural human emotion, a normal response to threats, attacks, injustice, and disappointment. Direct quote from their site: Anger is a powerful emotion and releasing the pressure that builds inside you can be essential to deal with problems and move on. But if anger isn’t dealt with in a healthy way, it can have a significant effect on your daily life, relationships, achievements and mental well-being.SMD @ lifeaccordingtostephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09884611147965544589noreply@blogger.com