tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post581759587893100119..comments2024-03-22T04:01:14.613-04:00Comments on Life According to Steph: What makes me tick: being reservedSMD @ lifeaccordingtostephhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09884611147965544589noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-18051662566468585102014-10-09T16:43:32.569-04:002014-10-09T16:43:32.569-04:00This is awesome. I absolutely hate audience partic...This is awesome. I absolutely hate audience participation! It's so awkward for everyone watching, no matter how much of an extrovert the participant is. I would be fine in the spotlight if it was something I signed up and prepared myself for. I didn't have a problem with speeches in school or presentations at work. But when a random hippie from the chorus of HAIR put a flower in my hair and wanted me to dance in the aisle with her? NO! Absolutely not. Haha! Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17987539776935412156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-41710981987850089672014-10-09T15:23:38.613-04:002014-10-09T15:23:38.613-04:00I wrote a comment and it disappeared... ugh. Let&#...I wrote a comment and it disappeared... ugh. Let's try this again: I'm a little bit of both, but have become more reserved as I've gotten older. I don't mind being in the spotlight at comedy clubs and things like that (as long as it's not a prolonged amount of time), but I hate it when people make me talk in front of a large group. I get all panicky. lil desiquahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12702603642296991017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-86617327594366902962014-10-09T07:14:37.992-04:002014-10-09T07:14:37.992-04:00I agree on the need to label someone something. Ev...I agree on the need to label someone something. Everyone has many facets. I have more extrovert in me however do not for the love of all that is good in this world pull me on stage. llf1020https://www.blogger.com/profile/16196234993611944142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-76877207493955660382014-10-08T21:13:36.910-04:002014-10-08T21:13:36.910-04:00I completely agree that although we all have both,...I completely agree that although we all have both, we lean more towards one or the other. I'm most definitely an introvert. Part of why I like blogging is because I can socialize without actually being around people. Sounds terrible, right? I'm just the kind of person who needs LOTS of their own space. When I'm around others I can have a good conversation and a good time but I'd almost always RATHER be alone.Amanda - Voyage of the MeeMeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08820601784610439713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-39235283843097065652014-10-08T20:43:20.957-04:002014-10-08T20:43:20.957-04:00I'm ok with being on stage if I'm in a pla...I'm ok with being on stage if I'm in a play but oh man the getting singled out by a comedian thing I'm right there with you! Betsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10054147905216792892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-25604057176144298102014-10-08T18:54:52.575-04:002014-10-08T18:54:52.575-04:00i am so an "when you're in, you're in...i am so an "when you're in, you're in" person. People have actually said to me "you are way nicer than I thought you'd be"...thanks...I guess?! :) Jen @ That's What She Readhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10153687739451709094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-79408726882903550292014-10-08T17:11:50.564-04:002014-10-08T17:11:50.564-04:00I've always hated when someone points me out i...I've always hated when someone points me out in crowd of people... I always have a fear of being in a crowd and the speaker calling me out, because I will freeze and not move... yet, I have no problem speaking my mine on my blog or social media. Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03956514232932544048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-59144513163548000362014-10-08T17:05:43.403-04:002014-10-08T17:05:43.403-04:00I def don't share certain things with certain ...I def don't share certain things with certain people or upon meeting them so I would probably be reserved in that area but sometimes I share things with strangers that make it appear as though I am not reserved. I have introvert and extrovert tendencies as well but when I was younger (and drank a lot at the club) my friends would say I was always the center of attention. It made me feel embarrassed because I didn't do it on purpose but add a little liquid courage and everyone's my friend!Tricia Conigliohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15948001098778737272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-64896621169631588502014-10-08T16:19:26.095-04:002014-10-08T16:19:26.095-04:00I feel reserved at work because I don't feel t...I feel reserved at work because I don't feel the need to speak-up all the time and what ticks me off is people to blabber on and on at meetings. Sometimes something good comes from all the blabbering and sometimes I just want to stop going off on tangents.lisacnghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08404184287815243972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-61251125930994486722014-10-08T16:09:10.103-04:002014-10-08T16:09:10.103-04:00I'm extroverted but tend to be reserved as wel...I'm extroverted but tend to be reserved as well. I'm not one to jump into the spotlight. Food, Booze, & Baggagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02975014929164134881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-76576074626025227352014-10-08T15:06:05.515-04:002014-10-08T15:06:05.515-04:00Oh, I'm a total introvert. I sometimes have to...Oh, I'm a total introvert. I sometimes have to force myself to be social. I'd be content to stay home. And go to Target. I don't mind going to Target. But I can be quite shy. My husband makes me go to his work things even though I'm like, "Meh." But I do it because I know it's important to make an appearance. Still. Blah.AiringMyLaundryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11051140760624657630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-49076615608815761782014-10-08T13:56:47.252-04:002014-10-08T13:56:47.252-04:00I can definitely relate to this and have been cajo...I can definitely relate to this and have been cajoled before against my will. You made a good point that I never thought about from that angle: I can't have fun in front of large crowds so I an no fun too. Emily @ Martinis | Bikinishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13771245700613396017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-967732191630258872014-10-08T13:13:03.906-04:002014-10-08T13:13:03.906-04:00whoops...silly phone! So anyways, in doing that it...whoops...silly phone! So anyways, in doing that it turns out I enjoy alone time as much as being the center of attentionNichole @ casadecrews.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16965329389850039573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-64143396064778746402014-10-08T13:12:12.495-04:002014-10-08T13:12:12.495-04:00The wall as a defense is totally something I do to...The wall as a defense is totally something I do too. When I was younger, I tried so very hard to make sure everyone liked me. It was exhausting! Now that I am oh so wise at thirty (hahaa), I have come to terms with not pleasing everyone and spending time with the people I actually want to. In doing that, it turns Nichole @ casadecrews.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16965329389850039573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-27370795047364107062014-10-08T12:11:32.685-04:002014-10-08T12:11:32.685-04:00The reserving myself behind a wall until I get to ...The reserving myself behind a wall until I get to know you part is totally me. I have never been able to open up right off the bad. I need to know you well before you know me. <br /><br />My ex loved comedy clubs. I went once and about shit my pants when the comedienne started picking on one of the couples at our table. I wanted to dive under the table lol. Luckily she never got to me hahaha... worst fear!Amy @The Crazy Wise Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09874810213852628465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-14935383786685803412014-10-08T12:05:23.930-04:002014-10-08T12:05:23.930-04:00My sister used to talk about being introverted and...My sister used to talk about being introverted and I would scoff because she had tons of friends and went out partying pretty frequently. Then, at some point, I read a bit more about it and it's not necessarily our behavior but the impact that socializing has on us. So introverts would tend to feel drained by socializing and extroverts would be energized.<br /><br />I tend more towards the extrovert side, and it's not that socializing is necessarily easier, but after talking to strangers or hanging out with friends I often get really bubbly and excited. That doesn't mean I always want to do it and sometimes it tires me out and I'd much rather be alone at home. So you're absolutely right about everyone being a mix of both!<br /><br />As far as reserved goes, I would say that doesn't apply to me at all. In the effort to make small talk, I frequently spill personal details or get into that grey "TMI" area. It used to bother me, but I'm starting to think it's just a fact of life. The more you force yourself to say things on the spot, the more stupid things you'll eventually say. (cumulatively, not proportionally)Jenn @ Optimization Actuallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08239463922130451189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-52707974216470289012014-10-08T11:57:32.197-04:002014-10-08T11:57:32.197-04:00What's crazy is that as we "age", so...What's crazy is that as we "age", so to speak, our personalities change...I used to love the spotlight...was the biggest extrovert...now I am more to myself, guarded and like to keep a low profile. I guess I am getting old! Ha! At the end of the day, I just like to have a good time with good company...that's what gets me going. Because Shanna Said Sohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03481799999447192285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-65953090073612581182014-10-08T11:17:50.475-04:002014-10-08T11:17:50.475-04:00I feel very similarly -- I consider myself introve...I feel very similarly -- I consider myself introverted because I recharge when I'm by myself, and feel drained when I have to interact with lots of people (especially people I'm not close to. Small talk is my nemesis.) I don't mind speaking up in a group or even having to give a presentation when I'm comfortable with the subject matter, but I hate being put on the spot when I'm not expecting it.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01412035876304255637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-91379993341344639852014-10-08T11:12:04.079-04:002014-10-08T11:12:04.079-04:00The spotlight is basically the worst thing ever. I...The spotlight is basically the worst thing ever. I cannot stand knowing that people are looking at me and if I have to be in that position, I have anxiety attacks for weeks prior. <br /><br />I am definitely not shy but I am hugely introverted. I'm totally fine talking to people and if I'm comfortable around you, I probably won't shut up, but I am definitely more reserved than not. And, after I spend time around large crowds, I definitely need time to myself to refresh. I like and need my alone time.Jana @ Jana Sayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15501814243709445827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-14088524180463076272014-10-08T11:10:27.659-04:002014-10-08T11:10:27.659-04:00I am definitely more of an introvert, but like you...I am definitely more of an introvert, but like you said I don't fit into a little box, hardly anyone does. I have both tendencies, and I am shy and reserved, even though I have a blog lol. I cannot handle the spotlight in the examples you gave, we went to see my husband's favourite comedian 2 years ago and my husband wanted to sit up close and I was terrified he would pick on us, so I made sure to laugh at everything and I didn't say a single thing lol.Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10125290724625391990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-32326863336267770042014-10-08T10:47:29.839-04:002014-10-08T10:47:29.839-04:00I agree that most people have introvert and extrov...I agree that most people have introvert and extrovert characteristics. I think I am more reserved as well, yet I stand in front of 40+ students to teach several times a week and have no issues with being in the spotlight in that regard, but other times I am just not into it. Bridal shower and baby shower? Ugh. I do not want people watching me open gifts and generally paying tons of attention to me. <br /><br />I also HATE small talk. Hate it. If I go somewhere where I don't know anyone, I will not be the person to make small talk or try to talk to people. I would rather just hang out by myself. John is the total opposite. Will talk to anyone and make friends with anyone, and there's me, not caring to talk to anyone!Carlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04226603442421611345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-65977984104519041142014-10-08T10:43:51.046-04:002014-10-08T10:43:51.046-04:00I will gut-spill to practically anyone. I wear my...I will gut-spill to practically anyone. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I am also a homebody, do not like to travel and prefer to drive so I can have all my stuff with me in our own vehicle, feel like a foreigner in the city. I have been in the spotlight a few times. It's ok. I make myself feel inferior many times because I do not have a college degree. I love making people laugh! I will not always speak my mind as I want everyone to get along and will avoid a commotion at all costs. I have both tendencies, too. We are all similar, but different. That's what makes the world go round.<br />Another awesome, thought-provoking blog. Love you!<br />Love, Your MOMMALinda Sheridanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03719274719027029150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-25218975092360679072014-10-08T10:43:15.730-04:002014-10-08T10:43:15.730-04:00I'm totally a little bit of both, it really de...I'm totally a little bit of both, it really depends on my mood. When I'm tired, I'm more introverted. I use to be very talkative until someone told me that I talk to much and it was annoying. So now, I'm very aware if I'm bring too talkative. Although when I'm not as talkative, I'm constantly asked are you ok? Sometimes, I just can't win. Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00210065091965251377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-56653484101363529032014-10-08T10:40:58.049-04:002014-10-08T10:40:58.049-04:00This is a really great post!! I think I'm a li...This is a really great post!! I think I'm a little bit of both - once I get to know you I can really become an extrovert, but i'm more reserved when I first meet someone, but still friendly and somewhat open!! BLovedBostonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03378765629410526703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-49711734430382502492014-10-08T10:13:05.162-04:002014-10-08T10:13:05.162-04:00a blog really is interesting because I feel like b...a blog really is interesting because I feel like both intro and extroverts thrive here. there's not much else like that. i wish i was more reserved. I love spotlights, at least most of the time. and that's not always a good thing.Helene in Betweenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03734694540206484285noreply@blogger.com