tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post5124257282229125492..comments2024-03-22T04:01:14.613-04:00Comments on Life According to Steph: ForgivenessSMD @ lifeaccordingtostephhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09884611147965544589noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-53374308424034873972015-06-09T00:25:20.865-04:002015-06-09T00:25:20.865-04:00I don't always forgive because I respect mysel...I don't always forgive because I respect myself. Cutting some people out of my life has been the better decision. I decided that some people were no longer going to mistreat me. Relationships and friendships are two-way streets. I don't feel bitter and angry. I don't think about what happened. I almost never think about the people who I didn't forgive. They are out of my life and I have happily moved on. I feel free, because I no longer need to be concerned about them. I have given second chances before, and sometimes I still do. But sometimes, second chances only showed people that they could use me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-63200976982910705742013-11-19T09:22:54.531-05:002013-11-19T09:22:54.531-05:00Thanks GenaHO.Thanks GenaHO.SMD @ lifeaccordingtostephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09884611147965544589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-48420468185663775552013-11-19T09:22:44.640-05:002013-11-19T09:22:44.640-05:00Thanks Kel! I need to make my way up to Newtown. A...Thanks Kel! I need to make my way up to Newtown. Are you there on the weekends?SMD @ lifeaccordingtostephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09884611147965544589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-91925281540891219252013-11-19T09:22:23.405-05:002013-11-19T09:22:23.405-05:00Thank you! I'm glad you found me too!Thank you! I'm glad you found me too!SMD @ lifeaccordingtostephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09884611147965544589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-27629126710953137852013-11-18T13:01:28.650-05:002013-11-18T13:01:28.650-05:00Belated kudos to you, missy! So, so true, and yet...Belated kudos to you, missy! So, so true, and yet so hard to always apply. I'm getting better at it the more I do it. Yay us! Gena Rawdonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09257357678962825578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-6221169045386866482013-11-14T07:53:40.435-05:002013-11-14T07:53:40.435-05:00Let it go. I tell myself that all the time. As c...Let it go. I tell myself that all the time. As cheesy as this may be, I love the Zac Brown Band song "let it go" because it's a reminder every time I hear it of the advice my dad always gave me when I'd get pissed as a kid - "save your strength for things that you can change, forgive the ones you can't and let them go."Steph Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08995001313606121231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-25568925674264059712013-11-13T20:02:44.803-05:002013-11-13T20:02:44.803-05:00This is so true and so well written! What a great...This is so true and so well written! What a great reminder of how every thought is a choice. Thank you for the reminder to forgive and let go.<br /><br />p.s. I miss you! Come see me and we'll have a smoothie (or juice) and catch up :.)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16912625725555116788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-51459718471502221662013-11-13T17:40:12.603-05:002013-11-13T17:40:12.603-05:00You know I already told you what I thought about t...You know I already told you what I thought about this post!!! Dead one and one that every single person, male or female should read. Like I wanna print it and post it on my bathroom mirror. I know you put a ton of heart and thought into this. :) Forgiveness has never been a good trait for me...forgiving others or myself. Because Shanna Said Sohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03481799999447192285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-22762689195760025792013-11-13T14:15:27.700-05:002013-11-13T14:15:27.700-05:00One of your best points is "forgiving does no...One of your best points is "forgiving does not mean forgetting in some cases," and sometimes it's hard to differentiate between the two. Gwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10673986016485754373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-52630139954488859712013-11-13T13:53:34.126-05:002013-11-13T13:53:34.126-05:00i will agree that it's really hard for me to f...i will agree that it's really hard for me to forgive. i hold on to silly grudges and make myself angry over things from the past. so really, it's only doing a diservice to myself. I need to learn to let go. it's a tough one.Helene in Betweenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03734694540206484285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-63942492387034495582013-11-13T12:46:03.363-05:002013-11-13T12:46:03.363-05:00LOVE this! It's easier said than done to forgi...LOVE this! It's easier said than done to forgive. However, I used to hold onto stuff for years and years and years. Granted those people had no place in my life before or after, but it still hurt. Now, about 10 years later... I've forgiven them but I haven't forgot. Chances are, they aren't the same person they were now as back then. Even if they are, oh well. Most importantly... I no longer hold that stuff in. Sadly, I haven't forgotten their words (of many people) and never will. The good thing is though they are forgiven.Whitney @ EHFARhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07574672293112274871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-17854373536048225042013-11-13T12:32:42.770-05:002013-11-13T12:32:42.770-05:00AMEN! I love how you said that it was about you - ...AMEN! I love how you said that it was about you - not them. You want to move on and be better not bitter. I hope nothing in particular spurred this post! I'm not sure if Gus forgives...Jessica Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08573961940671527302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-68000697531900559422013-11-13T12:23:29.217-05:002013-11-13T12:23:29.217-05:00Great post!! Forgiveness is a huge sign of strengt...Great post!! Forgiveness is a huge sign of strength, not weakness. It doesn't take much strength to hold onto a grudge - it's a lot harder to choose to forgive someone who has really hurt you!Angihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00394336849612797834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-80150136114422042022013-11-13T11:59:02.345-05:002013-11-13T11:59:02.345-05:00Ahhh, love this. Every word rings true.Holding gru...Ahhh, love this. Every word rings true.Holding grudges is exhausting.MarlaJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08137272982165965923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-29331245082215641542013-11-13T11:56:18.201-05:002013-11-13T11:56:18.201-05:00Totally needed this today!Totally needed this today!Nichole @ casadecrews.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16965329389850039573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-77385911548053293502013-11-13T11:53:46.043-05:002013-11-13T11:53:46.043-05:00I just happened to come across your blog and I abs...I just happened to come across your blog and I absolutely love it...it's like I was meant to find it and I'm so glad I did.<br /><br />You have said it so perfectly...I've learned to forgive not for the person but for me...it's helped me move on and become a bigger and better person.<br /><br />So glad I found this.<br /><br />Suzanneitsmesuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07046051760461280604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-21386987789417222932013-11-13T11:46:04.415-05:002013-11-13T11:46:04.415-05:00I forgive people, but I definitely remember it for...I forgive people, but I definitely remember it forever, and most times, they're just cut out. It's not worth my time!Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11422365462021152556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-13816041177026878082013-11-13T10:06:41.716-05:002013-11-13T10:06:41.716-05:00Words of wisdom girl! So true. It takes so much en...Words of wisdom girl! So true. It takes so much energy to stay angry. Kerry @ Till Then Smile Oftenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15665402939137040730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-62127470991837304312013-11-13T09:48:35.389-05:002013-11-13T09:48:35.389-05:00Such a great post! I always find that I've tru...Such a great post! I always find that I've truly forgiven someone when I can be happy for them, without wanting to look at them with daggers in my eyes :) And it always feels so good to be there. Because, like you said I have the power back in the situation at that point.Amber Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07784191631606085116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-24917529159209227132013-11-13T09:33:55.220-05:002013-11-13T09:33:55.220-05:00Some infractions are easier to forgive than others...Some infractions are easier to forgive than others. Failure to forgive isn't always not wanting to forgive - sometimes it's realizing that you just have to live and let go. Which was a hard lesson for me, that I still have to relearn on occasion.SusieQnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-40611340728005092642013-11-13T08:54:09.449-05:002013-11-13T08:54:09.449-05:00lady, this is an awesome post and i agree 100%. t...lady, this is an awesome post and i agree 100%. those who hold on to years-long grudges? GET OVER IT, GET OVER YOURSELF and move on because as they say, LIFE GOES ON.<br /><br />you can choose to live a life of anger and resentment which will ultimately suck out all the happiness in your life, or you can choose to forgive, forget and MOVE ON to happier things. i prefer the latter.<br /><br />a couple of weeks ago, a friend who is a notorious bailer just started being rude and not even showing up to our runs. no text, no nothing. not the first time either. man was i pissed. the old me would've thought: this is important to me so she should have the decency to text blahblahblah. yes i was mad for a bit but then i realized that i don't have to let her screw with my schedule so i just stopped inviting her. and i also forgave her for it. f she wants to come, she knows what time to meet and where. this way, i'm not putting either of us in a position to get angry. so much better!<br /><br />-kathy<br /><a href="http://www.lifeinprogress.ca" rel="nofollow">Vodka and Soda</a> <br />Kathy@MoreCoffeeLessTalkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11044005966979731361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-20491383186044531992013-11-13T08:42:34.070-05:002013-11-13T08:42:34.070-05:00Once I learned that lesson (which I did NOT learn ...Once I learned that lesson (which I did NOT learn easily!) my life became so much sweeter and I realized how blessed I am. I wish all my loved ones could let go so they could also find this peace! Three of Cupshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07504198212822541481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-64680682856043093392013-11-13T08:34:48.299-05:002013-11-13T08:34:48.299-05:00This is just perfect and so true. I say the same a...This is just perfect and so true. I say the same about anger and any negativity. There is enough of that in this universe. Whenever I feel <br />negativity coming on, I try to immediately send light and positive energy to the person or the situation. I never wish bad on anyone or anything.<br />What you put out is what you get back! Keep sending out light. #BEALIGHTWORKER<br />Love you to infinity and beyond.<br />Your MOMMAAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-83518811438358070552013-11-13T08:32:24.309-05:002013-11-13T08:32:24.309-05:00If I can't forgive, I at least try to move on ...If I can't forgive, I at least try to move on and move past. People who piss me off aren't worth head space. Forgiveness is way better, obviously, but ignoring the problem has its merits, too.Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01625993635674294934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4071987159907366396.post-87449022355456323122013-11-13T08:29:51.193-05:002013-11-13T08:29:51.193-05:00Resentment causes wrinkles. People who know how to...Resentment causes wrinkles. People who know how to forgive are prettier!BHShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05452646552597239826noreply@blogger.com