Wednesday, January 15, 2014

Bitches eating crackers

You know when you just don't like someone? You have no reason for it, or they did something once that annoyed you and now everything they say and do annoys you but you can't give that as your reason for not liking them because it's ridiculous?
Someone feels that way about you too. You are someone's bitch eating crackers. It's the way of the world.  Mother Teresa probably didn't have a bitch eating crackers, but the rest of us do if we're honest with ourselves. Hell, I have a few. 

The truth is that you can't determine how other people see you or what they think about you. Only you know what's in your heart and mind and what your intentions are. You could save the world and someone would still be sitting there saying, "Look at that bitch eating her crackers." Not everyone is going to like you, so don't live your life doing things to make people like you.
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Does that mean you can walk around like you don't need anyone else or like your shit doesn't stink? Of course not. Hopefully you have a trusted friend or two who will tell you when you're being a crazy asshole. And you have yourself. You have to be fierce with yourself: aware of your strengths and weaknesses, conscious of the effect your actions have on others, able to recognize and admit when you're wrong. Be your own moral compass. Keep yourself in check.
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Above all else, be you and do you. Even when the you comes out a little messy or imperfect. Work hard to improve areas you feel you need to work on and let go of the rest. You'll never be perfect or universally liked, so you might as well be unapologetically you. You have value, warts and all. Too many people let others determine their value. Don't be one of them.

If you're not hurting anyone else and are just out living your life and someone still finds fault in you, whatever. I'd rather be hated for what I am than loved for what I'm not any day of the week. Wouldn't you? If you're not being yourself in order to get people to like you, it's a lie anyway.
As long as you're honest with yourself, what people who don't really know you think or say about you just doesn't matter. Because whether you're right or wrong, good or bad, you'll always be someone's bitch eating crackers.

Wash those crackers down with some cranberry ginger ale and get on with it, bitch.

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31 comments:

  1. hahah that leo meme is awesome.

    i fully support everything about everything in this post. as always, you're a warlock with life. i think a lot of this just comes with age; as you get older, you become more comfortable in your own skin and realize that all the stupid shit you worried about when you were younger are just that - stupid shit.

    and those people trying to bring you down? SUCK A FAT ONE. at our old age, we know who are friends are and everyone else can just linger along the peripheral of our circle of trust.

    kathy
    Vodka and Soda

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  2. It took me a long time to realize that I don't have to be liked by everyone! You can really drive yourself crazy trying and worrying about something like that! The bitches eating cracker meme has been one of my favorites for a long time because it is SO true!

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  3. Bravo honey, bravo. I think we are ll so hellbent on the idea that 'everyone MUST like us,' and it takes getting older, having more life altering experiences to learn, that it will never happen. You can't please everyone, and that is OK. It's a hard concept to grasp (for some more than others), but you are 100% dead on. Be you. Do you. Don't be apologetic for who you are.
    I heart you <3

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  4. As much as I don't want to be someone's bitch eating crackers I know it is bound to happen. It is such a great lesson to learn to just move on, because it is betting spending energy on those who do. Love this post!

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  5. I really like the way you framed this because yes, I definitely have a lot of cracker-eating bitches. I mean, I get what you are saying - be you - but I'm still of the mindset that I can and should always try to be better. And I think it's mostly my perception - clearly what happens in my head isn't always what I project to others, which is probably a good thing - but if being better means more people like me, or they at least let me eat crackers in peace, then that's okay, too. I also try to remember that people are stubborn (at least I know I am) and once they've made up their mind, it isn't changing, so there's no use stressing about it.

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  6. It's nice to be liked, but not essential. The older I get, the less it matters. People are who they are. I respect that and either take them or leave them, and most importantly, do not take it personally, if they diss me. When I find myself bitching about others, my "voice" says Worry about yourself, Linda. Puts me right for a while.
    Love Leonardo. That Catch Me If You Can movie was on our TV many times via Sean. I would never have watched it.
    JMJ Frozen Fog in our area. Stay safe out there, entire universe.

    Love your MOMMA

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  7. I do know that person I don't like for no reason, she gets on my nerves.

    I also know someone somewhere feels that way about me and I don't even care, oh the joys of being (almost) 37!!!

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  8. hahah it is almost as if this post was written about my co-worker and me! Except with her it is salad I cant handle when she eats salad. and i 100% know she shares my disgust

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  9. I am terribly sad that I can't find Cranberry Ginger Ale on the shelves anymore. I miss it.

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    1. SusieQ it's a travesty! I haven't seen it in a while but some stores still carry it.

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  10. I'll eat my crackers with cheese and call it a day. There are definitely some people I just don't like and for not too many good reasons outside of the couple of annoying things about them. It's strange to think I am that person to others but it is what it is!

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  11. Hmmm, I've never thought about being somebody else's bitch eating crackers. It's funny how I know people don't like me, but I never actually have thought about it. Good post.

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  12. This right here: "If you're not hurting anyone else and are just out living your life and someone still finds fault in you, whatever. I'd rather be hated for what I am than loved for what I'm not any day of the week." is perfection. My philosophy on life. :)

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  13. Truth right here!
    One of the things I say often is, "there are over 7 billion people in the world. not all of them are going to like you." When you put it into perspective like that, it makes it easy to ignore haters and focus on the people who like you for you.
    xox dana
    thewonderforest.com

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  14. I bet Mother Teresa did have a bitch eating crackers and that's the real reason she isn't a saint.

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  15. it's really hard not to care what others think, but god, when you have that ah-ha moment it maes all the difference. gos those bitches and their crackers.

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  16. I'm pretty good about not letting other people's approval affect my decisions, but I can get myself in hot water at times ;) Like you said, I just try to not hurt anyone with my decisions, and do what's best for Will and I. I'd like to think I don't have haters, because I try to keep my head down, but you are right, there are ALWAYS going to be those people.

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  17. I love it. Keep yourself in check. Hells yeah. Plus who are we to judge cracker lady?

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  18. Oh I know for sure there are people who think this way about me. I used to care way too much. Now? I don't like when they eat crackers either.

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  19. Oh I fully support having that one person to hate. Just ask Stephanie : ) It makes me sad when I don't have that person, you need someone to let out your anger at!!

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  20. I love the crackers analogy, you are spot on! PLUS- I love any post that Leo makes an appearance in ;)

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  21. ^ I was wondering if Betsy had commented yet, I know exactly who her bitch eating crackers is at the moment.
    I have MANY bitch eating crackers, because when I don't like someone, I instantly decide that I loathe everything about them. My scorpio nastiness runs deep. Because of that, I'm also many other people's bitch eating crackers, and I'm totally cool with it. (a) because I know I'm always myself (and if you don't love my fabulous ass you're an idiot) and (b) once you piss me off, I unleash all hell on you. You'll hate me. But you'll have deserved it!

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  22. I don't know what else to say besides SLOW CLAPS. And thank you for keeping my ass in check.

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  23. I know what you mean about keeping yourself in check. I may be talking to my husband about someone and then realize, wow what I said was really mean. People definitely need to recognize and follow their moral compass. Totally are people out there that rub me wrong for no reason.. just don't like them haha

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  24. Fabulous post. I use to get annoyed with myself when I don't like someone because of little things. Then I thought I probably annoy the Bejesus out of people too for my minor infractions. It happens. Now when I am ready to set someone on fire because they are licking their soft serve ice cream like it is a cone but it is in a bowl, I give myself a pass.

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  25. Yes, yes, and yes to this post! I'll admit I struggle with accepting that I'm someone's bitch eating crackers. I've always strived for everyone to like me, no matter how ridiculous and unrealistic that is. But as I get older, I'm learning to accept there's plenty of people out there that can't even stand me, and that's okay. Hell, at least I eat crackers like a boss.

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  26. Huh, I always knew everyone was someone's "What the hell was I thinking???" when it came to romantic relationships but I never really translated that sentiment to friendships and well, other chicks. But, you're absolutely right. I read somewhere that if everyone loved what I was doing I was obviously doing it wrong. I keep that in mind when I catch wind of a hater then smile knowing I'm right on track. Great post!

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  27. LOVE this post. I wish I had seen it sooner. I'm definitely guilty of questioning "why doesn't so and so like me?" and then trying to change myself for them. now I realize, I'm just a bitch eating crackers. thanks for the reminder I just need to be me and let the rest go.

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